Daughter abuses mum

As Women’s Month draws to a close, a mother has spoken of living in fear of her daughter’s foul temper and physical abuse which has forced her to seek refuge at a neighbour’s home.
The mother told Capital Newspapers she has lost count of the number of beatings she received from her daughter over the past two years. It also emerged that her daughter also beat her brother, prompting him to attempt suicide.
“If we are together, she starts beating me. I have lost a tooth from when she hit me with a plate,” said the woman, speaking from her sister’s house. She added that her daughter had confiscated her pension card, refusing to buy groceries.
The brother had also decided to leave the family home and stay with relatives as he feared getting beaten. “I used to work far from home and, in that time, got calls from neighbours telling me that my mother gets beaten almost every day by my sister. Each time I confronted my sister, she would promise to stop, but never did,” he said.
When the 31-year-old lost his job a few years ago, misery began.  “A few days ago, we had an argument which ended with her boyfriend threatening to shoot me. This was not the first time she abused me. Before she tried to stab me and missed and ended up injuring my friend,” said the brother.
He added that after episodes of physical and verbal abuse, he had decided to commit suicide. “I came to a conclusion that it would be better to end my life. I took pills that I found in the house and drank some medication as well and collapsed, only to wake up in the hospital,” he said.
Family members agreed that the young woman was abusive but do not want the abusive woman to be arrested because she would lose her job which the family relies upon. The family stated all they want is someone who can talk to her to make her stop doing this.
The Department of Social Development spokesperson, Ncumisa Ndelu, asked for details of the family so that the department could deal with the matter.
This latest incident has added to growing concerns about the abuse of parents and grandparents. A viral video currently being circulated has shown a teenage school girl thrashing her elderly grandmother with a stick, evoking national outrage and calls for more protection for the elderly.
Last year, the Association for the Aged (Tafta) held a march in Durban to highlight the growing scourge of elder abuse.
Tafta CEO, Femada Shamam, said in a media interview that the rise in incidents was alarming and that the subject was still taboo in many communities.
“Elder abuse is often described as a silent epidemic … Neglect and abuse of the elderly goes further than just physical, and it is Tafta’s aim to educate elders and the broader community on elder rights to ensure protection and dignity of the elderly, and a world free from discrimination,” she said.
“Our social work team is inundated with anonymous calls reporting abuse, but without the necessary knowledge of how to report abuse and fear of victimisation by both complainants and victims, it is extremely difficult for us to ensure perpetrators are taken to task,” Shamam explained.

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